Apsects Involving Parents and Children

During the week, we have been leaning away from talking a lot about the different aspects, goals, methods, and ways involving dating between the past and now. We have started to become more focused the ideas, ways, and aspects involving parenting between the parents and the children. There were a few different ideas that we have touched base on and spent time discussing with each other. Few of those involved the child’s mistaken approach, the need, and the parental response. With this, it involves “unique” attention seeking from the child’s mistaken approach.

To put it simply, this involves the kids either doing something or saying something to receive the attention of the parent either in a good way or bad way, depending on the action. Another aspect of that topic that we focused on involved rebellion. That typical stage whenever a child starts rebelling while growing up, averagely speaking, every parent has experienced their children rebelling against them and their rules. The other aspect involved controlling others. This one is one of the ways a child may learn to manipulate and control others, which is never a good sign.

If children learn to control others, the longer it goes without the parents stepping in, the worse the problem can become in the long run. It can lead to children not wanting to develop or have any responsibilities in the future, it leads to children having more power than the adults, it can also lead to children not having any space to grow and to learn to make choices. Another topic we focused on involved the needs of the parents and the children. One of those that we touched base on was contact and belonging. Every living human being wants to have contact and belonging.

In families, parents and children want to feel the sense of belonging to each other, and to have contact such as hugs and kisses. The contact that everyone doesn’t want to feel is getting hurt, whether that may be getting hit, getting accidentally burned by a stove top, or an accidental cut while cooking. The sense of belonging is also important to everyone as well, whether that involves belonging to a family, a group of friends, or a team that they may be a part of. Another need that is very important to every family is protection. While raising children, it is up to the parents to protect their children from harm as well, but that doesn’t mean protecting them from everything.

At some point in the child’s life, while he is getting older, he or she will have to learn how to protect themselves and to prepare them to protect their families when they get married and have their own children as well. It is also OK to expose children to some of the realities that life has to better prepare them to learn how to handle those certain situations that may involve decision making, responsibility, and the need for challenge can come into play. The challenge aspect can affect a way a child may think and act, some hobbies can be challenging for people, those challenging hobbies may be creativity, sports, puzzles, games, and more. One of the best ways for a child to grow and to become more responsible in the future is to challenge them in some things to have them figure some things out on their own and to accomplish a certain task. It is essential for the child.

One of the last topics that we focused on was the parental response. Those responses include offering contact freely, choices and consequences, developing responsibility, teaching assertiveness and forgiveness, taking wise breaks, encouraging skill building, and more. Those kinds of responses can be helpful for the children and the parents. Many children may learn from those responses and could eventually help them in the future. Those kinds of responses can teach both the parents and the children.